Leadership can't be fabricated. If it is fabricated and rehearsed you can't fool the guys in the locker room. So when you talk about leadership it comes with performance. Leadership comes with consistency.
I try to be a hard boiled sometimes. My kids see right through it. I'm acting. It's always 'When I say you'll be back at 11 that means 11 not 11.15. Do you hear me!?' Then 'Yeah Dad.'