As human beings we need to know that we are not alone that we are not crazy or completely out of our minds that there are other people out there who feel as we do live as we do love as we do who are like us.
There is no harm in patience and no profit in lamentation. Death is easier to bear (than) that which precedes it and more severe than that which comes after it. Remember the death of the Apostle of God and your sorrow will be lessened.