I am an unconventional beauty. I grew up in a high school where if you didn't have a nose job and money and if you weren't thin you weren't cool popular beautiful. I was always told that I wasn't pretty enough to be on television.
My own experience is use the tools that are out there. Use the digital world. But never lose sight of the need to reach out and talk to other people who don't share your view. Listen to them and see if you can find a way to compromise.