It requires greater courage to preserve inner freedom to move on in one's inward journey into new realms than to stand defiantly for outer freedom. It is often easier to play the martyr as it is to be rash in battle.
I talk to women's groups all over the country and see women struggling with this. The fear of not being accepted of being different of not having a man all make it hard for a woman to do what she really believes is right for her.