Leadership is solving problems. The day soldiers stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership.
We became friends as we became a band. Our friendship evolved as the band evolved. It had its ups and downs but it was mostly ups for the four of us. We got along well almost all of the time. Hey! We liked each other and we still do.