A good leader can engage in a debate frankly and thoroughly knowing that at the end he and the other side must be closer and thus emerge stronger. You don't have that idea when you are arrogant superficial and uninformed.
To this day I've found that it doesn't matter what a guy looks like if he's really funny. His sense of humor makes him attractive. On the other hand you don't hear men saying 'No she's not pretty but is she ever funny!'
