You don't have any communication between the Israelis and the Iranians. You have all sorts of local triggers for conflict. Having countries act on a hair trigger - where they can't afford to be second to strike - the potential for a miscalculation or a nuclear war through inadvertence is simply too high.
Everybody wants you to do good things but in a small town you pretty much graduate and get married. Mostly you marry have children and go to their football games.