I believe that you control your destiny that you can be what you want to be. You can also stop and say 'No I won't do it I won't behave his way anymore. I'm lonely and I need people around me maybe I have to change my methods of behaving ' and then you do it.
There is a widespread difficulty in the Muslim world which has to do with how the people are taught about examining their own history. A whole range of stuff has been placed off limits.
