Dad was just an emotional wreck. He was drinking a lot of the time he was smoking a lot of pot. And because he takes certain medications the drinking was making him... you know he wasn't even present really.
Never make your home in a place. Make a home for yourself inside your own head. You'll find what you need to furnish it - memory friends you can trust love of learning and other such things. That way it will go with you wherever you journey.