Never permit a dichotomy to rule your life a dichotomy in which you hate what you do so you can have pleasure in your spare time. Look for a situation in which your work will give you as much happiness as your spare time.
My advice to women in general: Even if you're doing a nine-to-five job treat yourself like a boss. Not arrogant but be sure of what you want - and don't allow people to run anything for you without your knowledge.