We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this we are less prone to hate our enemies.
My advice to women in general: Even if you're doing a nine-to-five job treat yourself like a boss. Not arrogant but be sure of what you want - and don't allow people to run anything for you without your knowledge.