On the other hand when I give it closer thought I realize I'm not enough of a dictator to conduct an orchestra because it requires a pretty awful person. When you read these biographies of famous conductors they are all awful people who fail in their private relationships.
Maybe if everybody in leadership was a woman you might not get into the conflicts in the first place. But if you watch the women who have made it to the top they haven't exactly been non-aggressive - including me.
