Some of the writers I admire who seem very very funny and very emotional to me can develop a closeness with the reader without giving too much of themselves away. Lorrie Moore comes to mind as does David Sedaris. When they write the reader thinks that they're being trusted as a friend.
Gay marriage is the last bastion of to me... as a legal ceremonial sentimental and religious side it's one of the last steps. Retaining your job being one of the earlier steps like not getting kicked out of your job because you're gay.
