At school there was an annual school disco and I'd be standing in my bedroom wondering what to wear for hours on end. Eventually I'd arrive at a decision that was just the most ridiculous costume you could have ever devised - I think it was probably knitted Christmas jumpers on top of buttoned-up white shirts.
Defining marriage is a power that should be left to the states. Moreover no state should be forced to recognize a marriage that is not within its own laws Constitution and legal precedents.