It's hard for women who make a lot of money and make decisions all day long then they have to come home and be 'Stupid Sally.' Men need respect and they need to know that they can lead in the relationship so even if they don't make the most money they need to be able to call the shots.
Unless you have a perception of who you are as a lawyer you will never be at ease in dealing with legal matters clients or courts. But if you know who you are and why you're there all you need is the expertise and the information.