The problem of how we finance the welfare state should not obscure a separate issue: if each person thinks he has an inalienable right to welfare no matter what happens to the world that's not equity it's just creating a society where you can't ask anything of people.
I have so much chaos in my life it's become normal. You become used to it. You have to just relax calm down take a deep breath and try to see how you can make things work rather than complain about how they're wrong.