I'm a feminist but I think that romance has been taken away a bit for my generation. I think what people connect with in novels is this idea of an overpowering encompassing love - and it being more important and special than anything and everything else.
My view is that marriage is a relationship between a man and a woman. That's the position I've had for some time and I don't intend to make any adjustments at this point... Or ever by the way.