When I was little we lived on 8 acres and my mom had a horse. But when I was 7 my mom kicked my dad out and then in order to feed us five kids she got critters cheap or for free and raised them for food. We milked a cow raised chickens pigs and beef cattle. We heated our one-story house with wood and stayed cold all winter.
In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way.