As a teacher at Princeton I'm surrounded by people who work hard so I just make good use of my time. And I don't really think of it as work - writing a novel in one sense is a problem-solving exercise.
In terms of the romantic kind of lead I just never enjoy those movies very much. Maybe they'll come to interest me more as I get older. I doubt it but maybe. Romantic comedies tend to be for me an oxymoron.
