No matter how good you are at some point your kids are gonna have to create their own independence and think that Mom and Dad aren't cool just to establish themselves. That's what adolescence is about. They're gonna go through that no matter what.
The essence of humanity's spiritual dilemma is that we evolved genetically to accept one truth and discovered another. Is there a way to erase the dilemma to resolve the contradictions between the transcendentalist and the empiricist world views?