You never go into a marriage expecting to get divorced. You go into a marriage expecting it's going to last forever and you have a lot of ways you dream about the future. You have all these expectations and then you have to adjust those expectations and it can be a very unnerving confusing time.
I think war is based in greed and there are huge karmic retributions that will follow. I think war is never the answer to solving any problems. The best way to solve problems is to not have enemies.