Leadership is getting players to believe in you. If you tell a teammate you're ready to play as tough as you're able to you'd better go out there and do it. Players will see right through a phony. And they can tell when you're not giving it all you've got.
Really every woman is an example to me because as women we go through so much pain. We have to live this perfect life when we are messed up inside. We all go through trials and tribulations.