My personal belief is that you carry your own water in a relationship. If you see a girl and you think she's hot that's a very human reaction but you don't go and tell your spouse that you know? So in one way it's how you behave.
For a man to strike any women is most brutal, and I, as well as everyone else, think this far worse than any attempt to shoot, which, wicked as it is, is at least more comprehensible and more courageous.