Your problem is how you are going to spend this one odd and precious life you have been issued. Whether you're going to spend it trying to look good and creating the illusion that you have power over people and circumstances or whether you are going to taste it enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are.
Girls are taught to sing high and pretty like Antony not low and from the guts like Nina Simone. But we're slowly trying to change that. There are so many things we're not told growing up and it's our true feminist responsibility to take the truth to the people who need to hear it.