When first starting to work with someone you try to get them in the same mindset that you were in when you were successful and I realized the best thing you can ever do is realize that they are not you. They have a different persona and mindset and you have to figure out what works best within your communication with that athlete.
The heart of marriage is memories and if the two of you happen to have the same ones and can savor your reruns then your marriage is a gift from the gods.