Did you ever see the customers in health - food stores? They are pale skinny people who look half - dead. In a steak house you see robust ruddy people. They're dying of course but they look terrific.
Jealousy would be far less torturous if we understood that love is a passion entirely unrelated to our merits.
For my own family I would always choose the makeshift surrogate family formed by various characters unrelated by blood.